Are You Struggling With Grief or Loss?
Are you suffering the loss of a loved one or perhaps someone you loved has left before it was time such as in relationship loss? Loss of a job or a financial situation can also cause a grief response.
Symptoms of grieving are:
- loss of sleep
- physical illnesses
- change of appetite
- exhaustion, fatigue
- crying unexpectedly
- wake up feeling exhausted
- being on an emotional roller coaster
- wondering how you will get through the day
These are all signs of the grieving process and everyone grieves differently. These symptoms are a natural response to the grieving process, whether the loss is of a person, a relationship loss, career or job loss, or a beloved pet.
Getting through grief and getting to your “new normal” is a journey I specialize in and can help ease your journey through grief.
Loss of a Loved One
It’s surprising how much a loss can affect you, so unexpectedly. Loss of a dear friend can be more intense than loss of a family member. And your pet knew you better than anyone else did.
Loss of relationship can alter your whole outlook on life and on yourself. It diminishes self-esteem and leaves you wondering where you lost yourself along the way.
This is so very disheartening, and the tears seem to be never-ending. There is really no escaping the pain, though you may have tried to ease it with travel, drinking or drug use, sexual interactions, eating, and other actions.
Loss of Health
The diagnosis of a terminal illness changes everything, absolutely everything. A terminal illness can affect a person in ways you had never thought of. Coping with the demands of an illness is a full-time job. And making the necessary decisions can be exhausting.
Any one of these life events can affect you more than you ever expected, and you can feel like the rug has been pulled out from under you. Normal everyday tasks seem too hard and you don’t know how you will get through the day. You might be exhausted and are experiencing physical ailments as well.
Loss of a Job or Career
You didn’t realize how much of your self-esteem and identity has been derived from your job or career. Loss of a job can be devastating and can take time to recover from.
You want to make sure that your work honors your values and direction in life, and you also need to pay the bills.
Dealing with anxiety in this time is crucial. Therapy can help you to relax and realize your next step.
You Are Not Alone
Life events can affect you in surprising ways. Loss of love, health, or career can exhaust you and create confusion, anxiety, or loss of sleep. Grieving is a lot of work and affects you physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.
Everyone experiences loss at some point in life. The emotions of grief can be overwhelming and affect your day-to-day functioning. You feel frustrated, scared, and unsure, as though you can’t do anything right.
The loss can be like a void in us, the place that that loved one filled in us is now gone. The realization that the loved one is really gone can be devastating and you need time and support while mourning the loss that has been a large part of you.
It can take some time to heal and you are not alone. After a while, it might seem as though other family members and friends have gone on with their own lives while you are still in the depths of pain and grief.
There is no time limit on the grief process; it takes as long as it takes.
You have access to the help you need and the freedom to realize your strengths and your survivor abilities. Giving yourself this time to reflect, respond to the reflections, and to get the support you need is necessary to heal yourself and get started on your “new normal”, your life ahead.
Grief is work, perhaps the hardest work you will ever do.
Because of the amount of spiritual, mental, emotional, and physical work involved in this process, many people get physically run-down and can become ill because of the stress of grieving.
And most of us have been through relationship loss in some form and have been devastated by that experience.
Decisions have to be made, you have to function on a level that maintains your health and well-being. You might feel like you are going in a zillion different directions, and it can be exhausting.
Are you the beneficiary or executor on an estate?
For people who are the beneficiaries or executors of a will, that in itself can be a full-time job when you have to go right to work on the estate. With the demands of the estate process and lawyers, you feel like you have no time for grieving.
Finding your way in making these important decisions while grieving can be daunting. You need all of the support that you can get as you go through this period in your life.
Grief and Loss Counseling Can Help You Through
Therapy is a healthy option as you go through this life event is therapy in a safe, nonjudgmental environment. Through therapy, my clients have discovered themselves in a new way and found the strength and tolerance to face each day and function on a fresh new level.
Self-care is so very important, and therapy can help to comfort you, support you, and ease your way through this time. Giving yourself this time to reflect, respond to the reflections, and get the support you need is what is necessary to heal yourself and get started on your “new normal”, your life ahead.
Those who have been through loss can understand the depth of the feelings. Besides my academics, I have experienced loss and the job entailed as executor and beneficiary of an estate. It is a life changing experience and I am dedicated to ensuring that you calm, soothe, and heal in the best way possible.
Grief and Loss Therapy Can Help You Move Forward
Grief counselling is effective in helping you deal with your loss and understand your needs while in the grief process and life in general.
Having someone who you can talk to when you are suffering a life-changing event can make all the difference.
Having someone to talk with who understands the grieving process is how you take care of yourself on a level that enables you to move forward with confidence in your healing and in your life.
When your world has been turned upside down, you need someone who you can express your feelings with in a nonjudgmental space and who can support you as you walk through this time in your life.
Have Questions or Concerns about Grief Counseling?
What Happens in Grief Counseling?
This process can be a journey of self-discovery that you give to yourself. You have the freedom to realize your strengths and your inherent survival abilities.
Knowing how to deal with the decisions and issues is a process that is unique for everyone, and when you are doing something that you have not dealt with before, a professional is a big help.
My goal is to make this transition as simple and as meaningful as you can for yourself and everyone involved. The focus of my doctoral program was grief and loss and I specialize in the process.
I have been there before – death, divorce, career loss. Loss, whether due to death of a loved one or loss of a relationship, is hard work and demands a lot of yourself. Investment in yourself in a safe, supportive environment can help you get through this.
Our therapy will provide you with reassurance and the clarity for the road ahead.
There are several approaches to grief, and I use an integrative approach that is suited for the individual at the time of need.
Some of the tools used to help you find the peace, calm, and joy that have been missing in your life:
- hypnosis therapy
- guided meditation
- mindfulness techniques
There are many more modes of therapy that we can use.
How long does grief therapy last?
I use integrative, solution-focused, and strength-based approaches. This means that I use an appropriate approach for your particular situation. This has proven to be beneficial with clients who are motivated to recover from grief and loss, to include loss of loved ones (and yes, pets), relationship, or health.
The length of time in therapy depends on where you are now, what you want to accomplish, and how open you are to express yourself in a nonjudgmental space.
I don’t need grief counseling; I can get through this on my own.
Of course you can survive grief. When you want to do more than just survive:
- you invest in yourself,
- you consult with a professional therapist, and
- you get the help you need to get to your new normal and thrive.
How can hypnosis help with grief?
There is no instruction manual on how to grieve; grief takes as long as it takes. However, sometimes people get stuck in unhealthy thought patterns such as constantly recalling the moment they heard of the death or catastrophizing with a sense of dread about anything that happens in daily life.
Hypnosis can help you loosen these patterns and free yourself from them. Then you can grieve in a healthier way.
My clients say that going through therapy helped them:
- Get some relief
- Get back to feeling like yourself and things you enjoy
- Reinvest in life
You Owe It To Yourself To Take Care Of Yourself
Getting back to and maintaining your sense of well-being will help you physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. Taking care of yourself and meeting your needs will help you heal.
Learning to fill the void left by your loss can be a journey in self-discovery and holds the potential for personal growth. Filling that void and finding yourself again can take a while and can also be an opportunity for personal growth as you learn about and recreate yourself while you move forward.
You can begin today to recover from your loss and move forward with hope, clarity, and endurance. Call 954-392-5305, ext. 512 to start your healing and improve your sense of well-being.
You can learn more about Dr. Melissa Valentina’s philosophy in her blog at the New Leaf Therapy web site.